I have freckles and I like dressing up, reading, and snacks. Classified as dramatic and miscellaneous. I'm a girl raised by wolves but it's alright, I know how to behave, I've had lessons.

boneycircus:

an-unexpected-hero:

The Hobbit: The Battle of the Five Armies - Official Teaser Trailer 

…How dare you.

roobbstark:

I honestly saw this as a way of George telling D&D to fuck themselves

dwimmerlaiks:

The Hobbit cast signing to fans in Comic-Con International 2014 

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Minnow sleeps like she’s been shot.

fiercebunny:

panburger-partner:

I was the OC (don’t call it that) fair last week and it looked just like this. Beautiful super moon smiling its approval over endless miles of fried foods.

state fair time is the best time. Great picture.

boneycircus:

popculturebrain:

Poster: ‘The Hobbit The Battle of the Five Armies’ | Coming Soon

FUCK YES

absentlyabbie:

katerspie:

absentlyabbie:

katerspie, if/when you procreate if you don’t think I’m going to refer to your tiny humans as Kater Tots, YOU ARE WRONG.

YES. THIS IS THE BEST IDEA.

One of my high school besties called me ‘Tot’ for the longest time, because of the kater part. Somehow I never thought that ‘s actually perfect for kids :p

I MEAN THEY’LL BE BITE SIZE AND EVERYTHING

hopefully not actually edible though. 

hexfawn:

i made an aesthetic generator now you can discover urself

absentlyabbie:

katerspie, if/when you procreate if you don’t think I’m going to refer to your tiny humans as Kater Tots, YOU ARE WRONG.

YES. THIS IS THE BEST IDEA.

One of my high school besties called me ‘Tot’ for the longest time, because of the kater part. Somehow I never thought that ‘s actually perfect for kids :p

A post for men about creepy men

realsocialskills:

I wrote a post a while back about how some people are very good at getting away with doing intentionally creepy things by passing themselves off as just ~awkward~.

Recently, I noticed a particular pattern that plays out. While creeps can be any gender, there’s a gendered pattern by which creepy men get other men to help them be creepy:

  • A guy runs over the boundaries of women constantly
  • He makes them very uncomfortable and creeped out
  • But he doesn’t do that to guys, and
  • He doesn’t talk to guys about it in an unambiguous way, and
  • When he does it in front of guys, he finds a way to make it look deniable
  • And then some women complain to a man, maybe even a man in charge who is supposed to be responsible for preventing abuse in a space
  • and he has no idea what they are talking about, since he’s never the target or witness
  • And he’s had a lot of pleasant interactions with that guy
  • So he sympathizes with him, and thinks he must mean well but be have trouble with social skills
  • And then takes no action to get him to stop or to protect women
  • And so the group stays a place that is safe for predatory men, but not for the women they target

For example:

  • Mary, Jill, and Susan: Jim, Bob’s been making all of us really uncomfortable. He’s been sitting way too close, making innuendo after everything we say, and making excuses to touch us.
  • Bill: Wow, I’m surprised to hear that. Bob’s a nice guy, but he’s a little awkward. I’m sure he doesn’t mean anything by it. I’m not comfortable accusing him of something so serious from my position of authority.

What went wrong here?

  • Bill assumed that, if Bob was actually doing something wrong, he would have noticed.
  • Bill didn’t think he needed to listen to the women who were telling him about Bob’s creepy actions. He didn’t take seriously the possibility that they were right. 
  • Bill assumed that women who were uncomfortable with Bob must be at fault; that they must be judging him too harshly or not understanding his awkwardness
  • Bill told women that he didn’t think that several women complaining about a guy was sufficient reason to think something was wrong
  • Bill assumed that innocently awkward men should not be confronted about inadvertantly creepy things they do, but rather women should shut up and let them be creepy

A rule of thumb for men:

  • If several women come to you saying that a man is being creepy towards them, assume that they are seeing something you aren’t
  • Listen to them about what they tell you
  • If you like the guy and have no idea what they’re talking about, that means that what he is doing is *not* innocent awkwardness.
  • If it was innocent awkwardness, he wouldn’t know how to hide it from other men
  • Men who are actually just awkward and bad at understanding boundaries also make *other men* uncomfortable
  • If a man is only making women uncomfortable but not men, that probably means he’s doing it on purpose
  • Take that possibility seriously, and listen to what women tell you about men

tl;dr If you are a man, other men in your circle who are nice to you are creepy towards women. Don’t assume that if something was wrong that you would have noticed; creepy men are good at finding the lines of what other men will tolerate. Listen to women. They know better than you do whether a man is being creepy and threatening towards women; if they think something is wrong, listen and find out why. Don’t tolerate give predatory dudes who are nice to you cover to keep hurting women.

mpdrolet:

Norway

John Spinks

RF